Review of “The Pledge of A Lifetime: Her Hope for Connection, His Guide Through Conflict”


Mark Oelze, a marriage and family counselor since 1985, works to help couples process conflict in love rather than spite or anger.  He and his wife Zerrin have been married for 23 and teach the Madly In Love Marriage Conference.  They are parents of three grown children and live in Wichita, Kansas.  He and Zerrin have a passion to see intentional love used to shape how we communicate with one another. To contact Mark Oelze about the PLEDGE process and/or teaching a marriage conference in your church or city, you can email him ( or learn more at

Having celebrated 26 years of marriage to my husband and coming up on 27 years,  I know marriage takes work, communication, and love.  It is definitely not easy.  Through the pages of this book, the reader will see just how much work is required for a healthy, happy, and lasting marriage.  Mark Oelze does an excellent job of laying out how couples should communicate with one another.

Whether you have a marriage that is thriving or one that is in trouble, I believe all married couples and even those looking to get married should read.   The acronym PLEDGE tells the steps to take for healthy communication:  Pause, Listen, Echo, Disarm, Give, Engage.

So if you are looking for a book that dives into what healthy communication in a marriage should look like, check out this book for yourself.

I received a copy of this book for my fair and honest review.

Review of Love Nudge For Couples and Giveaway


If you are at all familiar with the 5 Love Languages, you know that everyone has a specific way they prefer to have love demonstrated to them.  For example, some people prefer acts of service, while others prefer physical contact.  But what if there was a way to go beyond just reading a book and taking that head knowledge instead to a heart level to essentially “train” yourself to properly illustrate and demonstrate level.


Just like an athlete needs to train to be successful, relationships require training as well.  Love Nudge For Couples aims to provide just that training.  Perhaps you have a spouse who provides you with fancy and expensive gifts, but you would prefer him to provide loving touches.  Then you wonder why this is the case.  In 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman details the different ways people prefer to have love demonstrated.

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But what do you do with that knowledge?  Love Nudge for Couples provides a way to do exactly that.  With a simple download of an app, it is easy to set up an account to get started.  Once the app is downloaded and you set up the account, you then take a quiz which provides results on your preferred language of love.  You also have the ability to set reminders to make sure you are attempting to demonstrate the desired responses. You then set goals to help you tangibly demonstrated love. Then you can send your spouse a link so the two of you can connect.


When my husband and I took the quizzes, we both felt like the results provided a reasonable assessment of how we prefer to have love expressed.  Then once we were connected, we were able to send each other love nudges to determine how the other’s love tanks were.  The concept of this app is really good.  However, I believe it is best used by people who have cell phones that can connect immediately.  We, unfortunately, did not have phones with that capability.  For us, we could only send the love nudges while at our home or someone else with WiFi capability.

Marriage and relationships take hard work, I feel this app does an excellent job providing assistance with this.  So if you are looking for a way to effectively connect with your spouse and speak the proper love language of your spouse, check out Love Nudge For Couples for yourself.

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